Nigerian Bae, PodCast, Single in the city

Podcast Episode 34

TOPICS This week: – The grown-ass insecure man I met this week that yelled at me -what’s going on with the site and blog during the holidays -my dating sabbatical until after the new year -update on the Nigerian man that couldn’t speak unless I spoke for him

Fashion, Nigerian Bae, PodCast

Podcast Episode 33

    TOPICS This week this will be an actual Live: – Love Bombing with the Nigerian -what’s going on with the site and blog during the holidays -my dating sabbatical until after the new year un hualing a lot of my Ulta goodies

Nigerian Bae, Single in the city

Nigerian Bae

So we met on POF in October We spent a great deal online talking before taking it offline and meeting in public a few things. I had to adjust our dynamic and the overexpression of his feelings and falling fast and a comment he made about me becoming a Christian. There was a point I even had to take a…

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LIFE, Single in the city, Things I see

Why you should follow my journey

I understand I am not everyone’s cup of tea. I am however someone’s dirty martini (blue cheese olives please) Who am I really? I’m an unorthodox mom (being a millennial has certain benefits LOL). I am not a helicopter parent and I find myself open and strict at the same time as a mom. I’m not their best friend but…

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Start thinking of your 2020 goals now

1. Improve Your Physical Health How in the world are you going to reach any goals with bad health? Remember when you had that cold, fever or aching back? Were you in any kind of mood to work on your life goals? I don’t think so. But when you start eating healthy and working out, all kinds of energy comes…

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Pof tales

    So he thought it would be great to create another profile. We exchanged numbers (i realize later he did this) for him to want to talk on the phone and was only looking for friends to message me on another dating app for sex lol.



We have all heard the seemingly discriminating remarks that fear is normal and abnormal, and that normal fear is to be regarded as a friend, while abnormal fear should be destroyed as an enemy. The fact is that no so-called normal fear can be named which has not been clearly absent in some people who have had every cause therefor.…

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Digging to the root of your problems

Most people have some aspects of themselves that they would like to change. But how often do you dig deeply to find the root of the problem? You have to address the issues that need to be changed. Without doing this you will be stuck in a cycle of trying to change but you won’t make much progress. Denying that…

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Spiritual Growth: the Spiritual Challenge of Modern Times

To grow spiritually in a world defined by power, money, and influence is a Herculean task. Modern conveniences such as electronic equipment, gadgets, and tools as well as entertainment through television, magazines, and the web have predisposed us to confine our attention mostly to physical needs and wants. As a result, our concepts of self-worth and self-meaning are muddled. How…

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Bumble Tales, Single in the city

I had to kick him off the bench

My stories with Nigerian men specifically never end well with me. I want to slightly blame cultural reasons or differences but at some point, I do want to sit back and ponder why this happens. I find it to be the same wash and repeat with them we meet and talk on the phone (I’m super old school on this…

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