Single in the city

Chocolate chasers

I am an equal opportunity dater. I do not like chocolate chasers. I didn’t realize this was a thing until I moved to North Carolina in 2011, I met so many military men from the Midwest that never had a black woman and wanted me to be their first, one should be flattered but I was not lol. It is a…

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Vetting Series

Why Vetting is so important part 6

My sex drive  is weird When I was pregnant  I never wanted to be touched and according to my friends, all of them wanted sex more I am not sure if that was my marriage and how  I felt or if that is just my thing. I am saying this because my sex drive was the same with both of my children.…

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Vetting Series

Why vetting is so Important part 5

I was blessed with a Mother in Law not from Hell I have heard horror stories from Friends about their  In-laws and the families of the person they have dated. I don’t mind a family oriented person I do mind Helicopter parents and family members with a grown a man. I missed Family get together since my ex-was in the military and I…

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Vetting Series

Why Vetting is so Important Part 4

Few mistakes I made in my marriage with money were: not setting up a budget for our household not save for when it was time to end  I know how that sounds, it’s like a bad idea to already think of leaving when you are married but my mother has been married for 34  years and she always told me…

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Single in the city

Boo, sexy,honey, dark chocolate

There is nothing more unattractive and nothing that dries my vagina up more are “cutesy ” pet names when I barely know you. I usually will put my name on the profile fill out my profile and make it witty and interesting. What do I get? Weirdos calling me chocolate, thick or what guys calling me queen and asking me…

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Single in the city

Are you Disqualifying Great Men ?

What about your friends? I have had friendships with my best friends ranging in years as early as  5 years and some almost 20 years. When I feel as if I am not doing something right I head to my friends since I know they know me and they will never steer me wrong, or just tell me some crap I…

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Single in the city

Tinder tales *side eyes*

I’m running fast and far away. I jumped back on tinder again since my sabbatical has ended. I’m still dating just felt that I was ready to put myself out there. I decided not to overwhelm myself with Tinder since it can be pretty overwhelming. How wrong am I to not want to rush anything? how wrong am I to…

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Single in the city

1 , 2, 3 strikes you’re out!

Just partaking in my nightly past time on tinder. He was around and lasted about a month I finally decided to unmatch him since after every time I’m trying to get to know him he’s discussing my looks or calling me baby and honey. I corrected him and he still called me sexy I get it men are visual creatures…

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