Single in the city

Boo, sexy,honey, dark chocolate

There is nothing more unattractive and nothing that dries my vagina up more are “cutesy ” pet names when I barely know you. I usually will put my name on the profile fill out my profile and make it witty and interesting. What do I get? Weirdos calling me chocolate, thick or what guys calling me queen and asking me…

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Single in the city

Are you Disqualifying Great Men ?

What about your friends? I have had friendships with my best friends ranging in years as early as  5 years and some almost 20 years. When I feel as if I am not doing something right I head to my friends since I know they know me and they will never steer me wrong, or just tell me some crap I…

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Single in the city

Tinder tales *side eyes*

I’m running fast and far away. I jumped back on tinder again since my sabbatical has ended. I’m still dating just felt that I was ready to put myself out there. I decided not to overwhelm myself with Tinder since it can be pretty overwhelming. How wrong am I to not want to rush anything? how wrong am I to…

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Single in the city

1 , 2, 3 strikes you’re out!

Just partaking in my nightly past time on tinder. He was around and lasted about a month I finally decided to unmatch him since after every time I’m trying to get to know him he’s discussing my looks or calling me baby and honey. I corrected him and he still called me sexy I get it men are visual creatures…

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Vetting Series

Why Vetting is so Important Part 3

Why Vetting and the  kids topic are very important   I had a friend that was  in a relationship with a man for 5 years  they started with the same ideas that neither wanted children as time grew on my friend changed her mind and never brought it up or talked with her boyfriend and the demise of the relationship…

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Vetting Series

Why vetting is so important part 2

  Vetting and Relationship “goals” Everyone loves the looks of relationship goals but does anyone honestly understand that it actually means more than just matching outfits and taking cool vacation pics? When I called off my marriage it took those that weren’t super close to me by surprise. on the outside, I had a super successful military husband we had the…

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Vetting Series

Why vetting is so important

What is Vetting? With time and asking the right questions, bad dating experiences can be avoided. One thing I did in the past was meet someone, like them, barely know them sleep with them and Bam we are together. Truth be told this is how a lot of relationships are developed toss a new baby in the mix that’s the…

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LOVE, Single in the city

Be Aware It is Cuffing season

AH, the Joys of Cuffing Season Gotta love  “Cuffing” Season The warnings usually start around the time it gets cold. Don’t fall for the hobosexuals . Dudes out here looking for homes to stay. I never realized how much I usually will avoid someone around this time of year and that it’s usually when I take my sabbatical.     Holding…

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Toxic Series

free crash course for toxic dating

Click me Leaving a toxic Relationship can cloud your judgement when looking for the great guy . The “Perfect guy” will seem like the best thing to ever happen to you . Click the button on your left to get your free copy on signs to pick up on.

Toxic Series

Things to avoid after a toxic relationship( part 6)

    Things to avoid after a toxic relationship Putting out on the first date. I know I know coming from my sexually liberated ass this is shocking advice lol.  I am only giving you advice from experience men don’t know what they want. They want a woman willing to sleep with them the first night ( I have had…

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