Ever heard someone say, “so-in-so is great, but I’m just not happy?”

Happiness is something you have to “choose” to be. A person could have all the money in the world and still be unable to acquire what it is they really want, and ultimately remain unhappy. A person could be surrounded by all their friends and loved ones, and still be lonely. This was something I definitely had to come to terms with when dating the Panamanian. My life was just not happy, I was not happy with where we were what was being fought about it what was going in with our relationship. I wasn’t happy with my apartment, my relationship with my kids, nor was I happy with my job in fact I was the most miserable and the most depressed I had been in years.

Getting into the habit of being happy is easy.

The first step is learning to appreciate your blessings, seeing the good or greater meaning of things. This requires that you become more aware of your five senses.  We need to use our senses to become more aware of our surroundings and accept them. It’s then that we can change our surroundings to become more pleasing to us. This could include some small, but significant changes, like placing candles by the bathtub, or buying a special lamp for your reading area. What made me eventually come to terms with everything was reaching out to my kids more often, changing jobs, and breaking up with The Panamanian.

Scientific research suggests that colors play an important role in one’s moods.

Light green and orange seem to make people feel happier, whereas red makes them feel hungry. Many people have been hiring interior decorators as part of their strategy for feeling better, as interior decorators have studied colors, patterns, layouts, etc., and they use these factors to create a comfortable living area, tailor-fit to your needs. Just remember to research your interior designer, and be frugal. The idea is to do things that make you feel good. It won’t make you feel good if you overspend, or overindulge. But it will make you feel good if you shopped around, and you got the best deal, completely fitting all your needs. I made a lot of changes with my home life and light candles and pick certain smells that trigger happy thoughts or soothing. Also, another reason I got into gardening

Again, awareness is the key to happiness.

After you have become aware of yourself and your surroundings, you can choose to be appreciative and happy.

My life right now is certainly a reflection of the great choices I have made. I am choosing the  H.O.E. life in every choice I make going forward.

Happiness Over Everything

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