LIFE, LOVE, The Panamanian, Things I see, Vetting Series

Unpacking and accountability

There are a group of people in this world who refuse to face themselves and their issues, yet continuously get into relationships and project their issues onto their partners. A cycle of failed relationships follow then they wonder why shit isn’t working out. When we meet people like that, who don’t hold themselves accountable it can be exhausting. Those people should stay single until they’ve done the work.

In platonic relationships it’s important to be truthful with our friends when they’ve turned dark. Meet them halfway.

Moral is, everyone is responsible for their own work while apart then we partnerships happen communication is key.

Vulnerability is why people are afraid to be open

-Dannie Walker

I am going through the accountability and unpacking phase with the Panamanian.

For whatever reason, he thought it would be an awesome idea to quit his job without a second lined up and float off in his very own dream world. When discussing this I was then asked to practically be his mother and guide him and teach him how to apply for jobs, how to do his own resume, and to in a sense of words take care of him. My answer, of course, was no to all of this and he was angry and I didn’t care. Our upbringing was totally opposite and when I made the decision to leave home at 18 I kept a promise to myself that I needed to make it in life so well that I never depend on my toxic parents for anything no matter what. So when I was laid off or wanted to leave a job I put out 15 or more applications a day I kept my eyes and ears opened for jobs, I networked, I paid for my resume to be fixed and adjusted after my first paychecks just in case. You want to Why? I was hungry I always have been I can’t

imagine quitting a job with no fallback but again I do not have an entire family coddling me when I fall on my ass. Its been a tense few weeks around him because our relationship is getting to a stage where he lacks any self Accountability and I am coming off mean because I don’t want to be with someone who is at a different level than me and refuses¬† to level up


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About KayDarden

My name is Kay, I am a Proud Texan, Mom of 2 genius babies lol and a Fur-mom. I love Fashion, Tacos & shoes. But I have realized over the last few years I am a serial dater I have stories for days most are crazy, sexy cool lol. I started sharing them with friends a few years back and thought it would be neat to journal my lessons on my blog. On my blog, you get a view of crazy dating scenarios and the lessons I have learned from them all, Fashion ideas, and also my frustrations since I chopped all my hair off and went natural.
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