When did the Coddle era happen?

So this single Journey has placed me in different areas of the dating Pool. There are times I have met some of the same men always in the same situation  My favorites are: Fuckboys/ I only can offer you Dick are always in the mix, then my personal favorite: the hold me down type men.

HOLD ME DOWN!

 I don’t know about you that sounds very one side and honestly exhausting. I have said this numerous times I never put my eggs in a basket with anyone until I am actually with them. I am running across too many men that do not have their affairs in order and want to still date me and have expectations for me to be committed to them without a commitment and wait for them to manifest. They literally want all the benefits of boyfriend hell even the husband and have absolutely nothing to earn any of this. I get it people fall on hard times things happen but honestly speaking these men should be nowhere near any dating apps or dating whatsoever. I get people that disagree and tell me i am wrong and no just because someone is down and out doesn’t mean that aren’t allowed to be loved. This is a huge reason why the circle of struggle love will never die out. We have plenty of folks that will date a man down on his luck that needs to use his concentration to better himself. They will live with him, take care of him and hold him down, have babies and sometimes be in the same spot a year later and will come on social media and cry why me. Please stop taking care of grown men that can offer you nothing more but dick and disappointments.