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He's just not that Into you - Girl in Htown

He’s just not that Into you

I was supposed to read this book 5 years ago seriously and much longer not SO seriously.

Greg was a writer on one of my favorite shows of all time sex and the city and I recalled when this book came out and the big hype it had surrounding it. You are meant to read or gain knowledge on something when the time is right and boy did this come at the right time. Spending a solid 5 years in this dating game, I was able to find my likes and dislikes having my heart sort of broken and staying up way too late wondering why. The “best part” of dating was I came across men that had excellent mouthpieces and wooed the fucking panties off me only for me to wake up from my sex induced haze like fuck he wasn’t into me at all 🤦🏿‍♀️.

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I had to just assume this was apart of “the game” not realizing half of the shit I dealt with while dating I didn’t have to deal with had. I should have just focused on his actions and what was coming out of his mouth and I could have saved myself a hell of a lot of time. Word of advice:

DONT WASTE YOUR PRETTY

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I have wasted my pretty, my pussy, my money, my energy and time on men that were just not that into me and you know the fucked up part about this? I knew they weren’t. Want to know what’s even more fucked up? Whew Chile, I made excuses as to why I thought they were unable to date me like I thought I should be dated. oh, he’s only texting me and it’s the same hyd, wyd, gm beautiful how was your day beautiful. I at some point of my dating voyage allowed men to do this for 30 days before I deleted their number ( not blocked deleted) only for them to appear weeks, months sometimes years later like they just didn’t disappear and I wasn’t many that they sent the same dry ass collective text messages to.

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I eventually had a method for this one don’t save their number until you meet them in public

( honestly you don’t even do this on the first date if you want to wait until date 3-5 I’m not even mad at that idea) I sync my contacts to my Gmail so no one important is lost that I save, but imagine this dude you meet on tinder who you never met showing up with a hey stranger text 3 years after the fact lol. Before you ask yes I have had this shit happen and yes he was mad I didn’t know who the hell he was.

Also, give a window on how long you want to text him and meet him

I usually give about a couple weeks (I only talk on the phone usually if they advise they only text I go ahead and block) if we haven’t met and they are in town I go on about my way.

I say all this to say that there are a lot of factors when a man isn’t into you and you should pay attention to it and exit stage left immediately to save yourself.
  • Unless you state otherwise from the beginning if his only conversations are about sex or he shows up every few months for sex. Stop making excuses he is just not that into you.
  • He’s married. he’s not going to leave his wife and in the small chance, he does he has a 95% approval rating of cheating on you. Your pussy is not magical he is also not into you and doesn’t respect you.
  • If he drinks, does drugs or engages in behavior that makes you highly uncomfortable and he acts like an asshole under the influence of these items. He values that high over you and definitely is not into you.
  • if he mentions that he doesn’t want to get married/isn’t ready to get married or a relationship period. he might be into you a little but isn’t into you enough to fully commit to you in any aspect.
  • he’s not fucking you. he’s not into you period (also may possibly be fucking someone else)
  • He ghosted you. Take a no response as a response he is a coward and unable to communicate like a grown-ass man with a 401k and knew you would challenge him he is not into you at fucking all go on about your life and find a man that takes you seriously.
  • He’s emotionally unavailable. He’s wasting your time  and  not  into you  
  • He’s  “busy”. If Barack Obama can hit up Michelle I’m sure “Teddy” who works in the plants can too. He’s not that into you a man will move mountains to get to you and see you smile.
  • he needs to get his life together. If you are not enough motivation for that man to get his life right he is not that into you and  Lowkey maybe an energy vampire run sis lol.

 

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Published by KayDarden

Howdy, folks! I'm the creative force behind the blog "Girl in H-Town." I wear a few hats – writer, mental health advocate, and I like to think of myself as a "dating wing woman" with a passion for empowering women, helping them heal from their trauma, and improving their mental well-being. I was born and raised in a small Texas town, and let me tell you, life threw some real curveballs my way. I focus on empowerment, self-care, and self-love. When you read my blog, you're getting a piece of my heart – it's raw, honest, and deeply personal. I pour my own journey of healing and self-discovery into every word. When I'm not tapping away on the keyboard or working, I enjoy the simple things in life. I'm a bookworm, love tending to my garden, and find peace in yoga. But my pride and joy? Well, that'd be my super genius teenagers. Family is everything to me, and I'm committed to using my platform to positively impact this world. Whether you're looking for inspiration, guidance, or just an ol' Texas story, my writing is here to make a lasting impression. I'm a staunch advocate for mental health and an essential voice in the conversation around trauma and healing. So, if you're ready to be inspired, stick around. Kay Darden of "Girl in H-Town" is here to give you a Texas-sized dose of wisdom and heart.