Vetting Series

Why Vetting is so Important Part 3

Why Vetting and the  kids topic are very important


I had a friend that was  in a relationship with a man for 5 years  they started with the same ideas that neither wanted children

as time grew on my friend changed her mind and never brought it up or talked with her boyfriend and the demise of the relationship was that he didn’t want kids.

My kids are now at an age as well as I am that I no longer desire kids usually any man that I met  I make this very clear to them when the topic of children comes up. Sometimes it’s a deal breaker sometimes it isn’t.



The Questions  :

Few questions  that should be asked  (ask yourself these as well)
Do you plan on having children?
When do you want to have them?
If you face fertility issues would you pursue fertility treatment or adoption?

I feel with these questions, in particular, you can make an active dating decision on if you will go forward. If you know you do not want any more children it would be best not to waste the time of someone that does. I know some folks are in a time crunch on finding a great partner and having children and there is nothing wrong with that. Just make sure that partner is looking for the same thing to avoid anything down the road.I feel like the fertility issues will vary with different people since things may happen during the relationship and the issue on fertility may not be known at that time.





1+1= a crap ton of kids


How many children do you want to have?

Would you home-school or enroll in public or private school?
What are your views on discipline?


This could change when I was 19 and married I told  my ex-husband I wanted 4 kids and for us to have all the kids before I turned 30. *side eyes* you could not pay me to have another kid, to be honest, I am only basing this off of the options I have sitting around me and that supposedly my eggs are drying up this very moment I am typing this. *even larger amount of side eye*. I was always in public school growing up this was honestly all I have known and what my wallets can afford. I recalled having the talk with my ex on discipline when we started our marriage and raising  kids I was not a firm believer in spanking because of the abuse I endured from my mother as a child .it seems those roles are reversed  although speaking  the  kids aren’t needed as they have gotten older but  I’m a firm believer in it and he has taken the  role as the  I’m taking everything go stand  in the corner kinda parent . I  was in a relationship with my last ex and we didn’t agree on discipline and it caused an enormous rift in our relationship since he wanted to take discipline to the extreme so much so it was borderline child abuse this is something to keep in mine as well.





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My name is Kay, I am a Proud Texan, Mom of 2 genius babies lol and a Fur-mom. I love Fashion, Tacos & shoes. But I have realized over the last few years I am a serial dater I have stories for days most are crazy, sexy cool lol. I started sharing them with friends a few years back and thought it would be neat to journal my lessons on my blog. On my blog, you get a view of crazy dating scenarios and the lessons I have learned from them all, Fashion ideas, and also my frustrations since I chopped all my hair off and went natural.
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