It’s funny when I took 3 years off from getting in a relationship it shaped a lot of what I thought I wanted from a relationship then when the Panamanian came around and I was settled into that for a year and It ended my mind shifted again on what I was looking for I had my bullshit ass list all ready to go and something shifts my mind while dating and I had to go back to the drawing board and redo my list all over again lol .
my original list looked something like this :
The list is sad and pathetic now that I think about it lol
(sometimes the car part didn’t even have to apply and I was willing to pick them up in mine ) I know I know .
The Second List
Before The Panamanian
my list looked a little something like :
I also realize in Hindsight he lied about all the above hence why he was fired lol
after wards when it ended I revamped my list :
I know you are like friends and hobbies but men with no friends is always a cluster fuck . this is not to be confused with a small circle I mean if he has not 1 friend not one he’s not a very likable person and a reason why there are no friends in his life. Also I was bored with the sex and realized my sex drive was much more higher than the Pananamanians and I realized this was something important.
I do not consider myself clingy but I realize that I love communication and enjoy getting to know the mindset of whomever I take on as my “lover ” with that being said no communication , no finance, No sex, no nothing Periodt! lol
Now I realize all of these are very much surface level needs for goals with anyone I date and someone may look at the list and are scoffing like men don’t have these things ? No there are a lot of men with not one thing on that list and are out on dating apps wanting you to accept the bare minum or nothing at all and build somethign with them .
I also realize that I need to know who you are on some aspect before I continue on any step with you and the Officer
actually taught me a great lesson with this I think we were dating a few weeks and he stated I was his girlfriend and I had to stop him and correct him that not enough time had passed I barely knew enough about him to want to even go to that level . I also advised him that if he wanted us on that level we needed more time and memories for me to want to be in a relationship with him .