After the snow storm and meeting the besties

After making it over the hump of the snow storm and us having a few weeks of arguments the huge problem that was coming about within the relationship was that we were not communicating or both of us could understand what the other person was stating we also weren’t listening to each other it was really bad it was absolutely dreadful so separately we both decided to make that decision to resume therapy separately the therapist gave us separately great insight and we took those and holding a lot of those skills that we had within our relationship I found over the next course of the next month or two we’re actually doing really great with the communicating and the arguments instead of them being a moment where one person is not listening to the other it was an actual great learning experience and a wonderful opportunity for us to get to know one another much better. I found myself with a lot of patience during all of this I think it’s easier to be patient with someone when they’re working just as hard as you are for the relationship I can honestly say I have absolutely never had that happen before I’m almost 40 and this is my first time actually having a relationship that is healthy I’m really not sure how I feel about that I mean the feeling is great but , what does that say about me and the choices I’ve made?

I’ll be honest I’m fully aware that every decision I’ve ever made has brought me to the moment that I’m at right now why did it have to take so long? I’d be lying to say that this moment currently doesn’t feel nice because it is absolutely amazing to have someone show up for you and they want to work just as equally hard on the relationship and pour into you as much as you want to. I got a chance to introduce him to my childhood best friend on her birthday had an amazing time going to brunch and going bowling with her and then they had a small opportunity to speak to one another I always like to have my friends meet the men that I’m interested in just to get a feel to see how they feel about that particular person so far pherron approved

I also got an opportunity to meet his best friends which honestly was really refreshing that he had friends I think the last two relationships I had neither one of those men had any friends not even one that really does speak volumes about a person that has no friends whatsoever. then once you’re in a relationship that with them for about 6 to 7 months you kind of realize exactly why they don’t have any friends LOL. So this was also a new chapter for me as well .

 

I don’t want to solely place the blame on any of the men that I decided to pick to have in my life but it really doesn’t help that those men were not really pouring into me it reported to themselves and putting it off as if they were pouring into me which is worse. He’s talking about wanting to take a trip because currently we’re both really stressed out at work and we haven’t hit that realm of our relationship as of yet where we vacationed so that is something that we’re going to be putting forth with in motion within the next month I’m really excited we haven’t decided what we were going to do but I feel like it’s going to be something fun and I actually enjoy his company big shocker huh? Lol.