So a whole Month has Passed and so many things have gone off the fucking tracks.
The kids were supposed to come down for Christmas their father waited until 24 hours before he decided to let me know that he was not sending the kids down for Christmas so the Sigma and I spent Christmas and NYE together and rang in 2021 together. Once the nostalgia of the holidays died down he came to me and asked would I like to see my kids I advised him of course right there at that moment he booked two plane tickets hotel, as well as a rental car in a couple of weeks then I watched him take his time off advised me to do the same and that he was going to take me to see my kids. so of course the conversation when it was time for me to talk with the kids and advise them that I was coming out to North Carolina to see them bringing up the topic of my new boyfriend my kids were definitely not on board with it and not happy with the fact that he would be there on the trip.
Now reflecting on this above^ this was in fact Love Bombing
He even offered to get himself another hotel room so that the kids and I can spend some time together eventually the kids just advised that it was perfectly fine and I went out to North Carolina to see the kids had a great weekend with him and even found out a lot of things about myself as far as being a mom and I watched closely how he interacted with my kids. So, all in all, it was a great trip.
After the trip ended there were things that I found out that happened before we officially became a couple
now granted we were not in a relationship nor were we together but he decided to have sex with someone at this point he is telling me I love you he has already told me that he wants to get married and had already had a conversation about having children. Me being livid about it wasn’t an understatement I was even more livid finding out a few weeks later that he had contracted chlamydia and was advising me to go get tested now up until this point we were assuming that it was the young lady that he had advised me that he had sex with before we got into a relationship.
he also advised me that he had used protection which obviously he did not he told me this was the only person that this had happened with and since he and I’ve been in a relationship it had not happened again. I went to go get tested my test results came back negative so then there was a major side-eye looking at him. We argued about this for quite some time because it did not make any sense to me that I didn’t have an STD but he did so my trust level with him dwindled we begin to fight on a weekly basis the arguments were more so about communication.
A lot of the times he is communicating with me
but I’m not understanding what he’s meaning nor am I understanding if he is being malicious when he is speaking with me. when asked for him to possibly change his verbiage or to speak to me in a way IE simple so that I can understand I was then met with scoffs and told that how about you just not listen to things like how you feel they should be and instead listen to it differently. I took that to mean as I’m not necessarily wanting you to think with your brain but think of it how I would.
Hello, red flag it’s nice to meet you.
I pride myself on being an excellent communicator that’s my job and it is a love language of mine especially for the people that I care about and I appreciate having in my life. I enjoy catering to my friends and my family’s communication styles that is the way that I show them that I respect them and that I love them so I am always and forever going to be one of those types of people that will tweak or fix my verbiage, where I know for a fact the person that I’m talking to will understand me so of course, this is all coming at a great shock because everything else with this man is perfect except this man’s communication style is awful hell if I can even get along with Nate and my communication with Nate is great that speaks volumes on the fact that this particular aspect of our relationship is not going very well at all.
